Person-centred and psychodynamic: my way of working
- There are several different approaches to counselling in this country and I’m trained in both the person-centred approach and the psychodynamic approach, but work mostly in a person-centred way, allowing the psychodynamic ‘stuff’ to inform me as a session progresses – like the bass line in a piece of music.
- I believe strongly in the positive nature of all human beings, and that we’ll always try to do the best for ourselves, whatever problems we’re facing or situations we find ourselves in.
- We’re all unique, and we all deserve total respect for our capacity to choose our own directions and values in life.
- I believe that YOU are the only expert on your own internal world and the only person who really knows how YOU feel. You’re the only one who can decide who and how you should be, what the meaning of your life is, and how you live your life.
- I believe the most important thing in counselling is the therapeutic relationship that develops between you and I, in which I hope you’ll feel really heard and understood, in a non-judgmental way, and that you will experience me as a real and genuine person in this relationship.
- I’ll often be very open with my feelings as I experience them here, rather than playing the role of expert counsellor with any solutions. I don’t have the answers, but you will have.
- I’m not an expert. The answers to the difficulties you’re facing, if there are any answers, lie within you. I’ll ask questions to check that I’ve heard and understood you correctly but I’m not here to pry into your life. We will be working with whatever it is that you bring into the room.
- I’m used to a lot of silence and strong feelings, and tears, and I hope we can build trust between us so that you can be yourself in here.
- I’ll be very accepting of what you tell me, and at the same time will notice, sometimes aloud, if I’m experiencing you in a way that doesn’t seem to fit with the words that you’re saying. I’ll do my level best not to interpret anything you do or say with MY meanings, but always try to clarify what things mean to you, and how you are REALLY feeling.
- I’ll try to be sensitive in everything I say to you, and at the same time I want to be as open and genuine with you as I can be, without any pretence. I’ll be direct and honest in sharing how I’m experiencing you and the things you talk about, and you may find this way of working quite challenging at times.
- I hope we can create a trusting relationship, and that I can provide a safe space where you feel heard and understood so that you can be in touch with your feelings and talk without fear about anything that concerns you. I strongly believe we need to own and value all our feelings, even the most uncomfortable ones and to say how we feel – be heard, and understood.
- I hope you’ll experience that here, with me, and be able to deal more effectively with the feelings that are troubling you.
If you decide to come and see me for counselling then I will ask you to read and sign my contract to show that you understand the service I am offering and that you agree to a certain way of working together. You can click on the link below for details.